On Valentine’s Day, I was ecstatic to see so much
participation in Eve Ensler’s One Billion Rising event to create a conversation
about sexual violence, healing for survivors of assault, and a way for
participants to advocate against sexual violence. Ensler has had an annual
V-day event, but this year it seemed particularly well-attended. In the Twin Cities, there were dancing and
performance events; I was on calI with Ramsey County Sexual Offense Services,
so I was disappointed I couldn’t attend.
I have loved Ensler’s work since the first time I saw her play, The Vagina Monologues (If you have not
seen this play, I highly advise you to do so ASAP). While continuing to be a playwright and
author, Ensler has become an advocate to end violence against women and girls around
the world. Here is a short story from NPR about the day:
However, I was also saddened this week to learn about two
events in the running community which highlighted the issue of sexual
violence.
First, Olympic 400m runner Oscar Pistorius is in the second
day of his bail hearing for the charge of a pre-meditated murder of his
girlfriend, Reeva Steenkamp. Pistorius shot
her three times from outside a locked bathroom door, claiming he thought she
was an intruder. How anyones first
thought of a locked bathroom door means an intruder is in the house is ridiculous,
and a pathetic defense. How would his
girlfriend’s presence make him believe a dangerous killer was in the
house? And wouldn’t he have made sure
there was a stranger behind the door, by talking to the person, before shooting
at them four times? Of course, I do not know the details of the case, but I am
pissed off that a man who was so successful and famous seems to think of girlfriends
as easily dispensable.
Second, I learned former University of Toledo head cross
country and track coach, Kevin Hadsell, resigned of his coaching position at
the end of January after a former runner told University officials Hadsell was
sexually harassing her through lewd text messages. Hadsell has been accused of dating and having
a physical relationship with several of his current and former athletes
throughout his tenure at Toledo. Hadsell
started grooming some of his athletes in their freshman and sophomore years by incessantly
texting them. If they responded, they
were rewarded with more attention as an athlete; if not they were ignored.
There was an “in-crowd” of women of the team who he was friendly with outside
of practice, and these women were the one who got to travel. In addition, he has been accused of drinking
during practice, giving alcohol
to underage runners on the team, and driving the team van while
intoxicated.
I am so
disgusted by Hadsell’s abuse of his position of power. I cannot imagine trying to be a student
athlete in an a team environment where there are so few boundaries and the
coach is turning women against each other in order to have more control over
them individually. His actions are
completely unethical and, in some instances, illegal. I hope he is held accountable for his actions,
and I really hope he is not allowed to coach anywhere else.
Here is two
text conversations he had with one of his former athletes who helped him coach
the team:
Hadsell: "I don't know but
it was honest and that sucked because OB and Kelly didn't know that."
Andrea: "Oooh oopsies. Well
that was a long time ago though."
Hadsell: "Exactly. Dude I
hate shit like that. People don't think about all the good I've done when they
make a call like that."
Andrea: "Honesty - I bet it
was strategically done when were having all this success to try to tear it
down. I mean really, because if that person was really concerned why wouldn't
they place the call as soon as they knew about all this?"
Andrea: "And uhhh you can date
former athletes correct?"
Hadsell: "Exactly.
Pussies."
Hadsell: "Dude don't mention
a word of this to anyone."
Andrea: "If it were to get
out it would put a serious dark cloud over our program"
Hadsell: "Yes. They even
said I can from the day they graduate. They don't care."
The university
had nothing to go on except for an anonymous phone call, and Hadsell was
apparently cleared. If he was at all chastened by the investigation, he didn't
show it. Here's a series of texts from Oct. 7, five days after he'd complained
that someone was out to ruin his career with allegations of inappropriate
relationships with his runners. Around 10 p.m.:
Hadsell: "Fuck"
Hadsell: "I want to
talk."
Hadsell: "And Be real"
Andrea: "Okay we can"
Hadsell: "Dude. Straighgt
up...can I trust you? And. Are u really interested in me?"
Andrea: "Yes you can trust
me"
No further texts
for an hour. Then:
Hadsell: "Fuckm."
Hadsell: "Are u awake?"
Hadsell: ":("
No further texts
until 12:57 a.m.
Hadsell: "I guess not. Fuckk."
Four days later,
while in Wisconsin for a cross-country meet, Andrea told Hadsell she knew he'd
been sleeping with Caitlin, who had graduated the previous spring. Hadsell
denied everything.
Andrea: "you really don't
lead her on at all?"
Hadsell: "Dude. I don't. I
don't completely discourage. I'm a guy. Duhh. That's honest."
Andrea: "I knew it"
Andrea: "Hahahahaha"
Hadsell: "Like you know what
I mean. You're not ENCOURAGING. But you're not"
Hadsell: "DISCOURAGING"
(Later)
Hadsell: "Not gonna lie. I would
hook up with [Caitlin] (I havemt) but if she wasn't psycho I would."
Hadsell: "But you and I are
far too cool not to."
Andrea: "She is psycho! I
told you!"
Hadsell: "If I fuck her I'm
fucked"
Andrea: "Literally"
Hadsell: "It may be a good
ride. Just sayin."
Hadsell: "But now sure of
the rest of it."
Andrea: "Ugh"
Hadsell: "?????"
Andrea: "Hahaha noting
man"
Hadsell: "Hahaha. That she
may be a good lay?"
Andrea: "No I'm sure she
is"
Andrea: "But she's just
crazy nano"
Andrea: "Man"
Hadsell: "Not worth
it."
Hadsell: "Dhe talks a big
game."
Andrea: "I'm sure"
Hadsell: ".maybe you talk a
big gAme?"
Andrea: "MAYBE"
Andrea: "Hey I'm going to
bounce soon man"
Hadsell: "Fucmkkk. :("
Andrea: "I know man"
Andrea: "Obvi Ill keep in
touch"
Hadsell: "Dude."
Andrea: "Dude"
Hadsell: "Fuck man."